So today's Lesson is about failed relationships. This is the first but most definitely won’t be the last in relation to break ups. I have learned some of the biggest lessons of my life from break ups. There is something powerful about being stripped right back and being gifted back the time you once shared with someone else that gives you this new lease and outlook on life. So needless to say, there have been a lot of lessons I have learned about myself and about others through relationships.
The lesson that this song is coming from is Allen Stone. If you don't know who Allen Stone is, you are missing out of life. He is truly the definition of SOUL in every sense of the word. He is by far the best life show I have ever been to. I have seen him 3 times now and every single time I have left his show with this crazy buzz and energy that I have never felt before outside of his shows. It truly is mind blowing.
Anyway, the Song Is 'Unaware' off his Album Named 'Allen Stone' that was released way back in 2012 and for anyone else who has followed him for ages will agree with the pain involved with waiting till 2016 for his following album but as they say all good things are worth waiting for.
"All you do is push pull tear, we can't stretch it any further"
'Unaware' has always thrown me back to a relationship I had when I was 23 with a girl who I fell for hard early on and we ran at this fast. It was the kind of relationship that just fell into place everything happened smoothly with no bumps or any adversity at all along the way we got on and everything was good. When you start hearing about some of my other relationships, you will realise that this kind of smooth sailing was not always the case. I have been known to have a “I can help her mentality” syndrome which has got me into some odd situations - odd being a conservative word for some of the things I have been involved in.
Anyway, everything was good for a couple months no hickups but looking back on it, we both could feel this drifting apart for no reason what so ever. Everything on the surface and from the outside looking in was perfect and this is were my first lesson in the unexplainable connection came from and the fact that just because someone looks great on paper and physically does not mean shit, if you still feel empty. I just could not explain why we drifted apart slowly, because there was not a real reason so we both started to create reasons that would slowly pull us apart. It did not feel like that at the time, but looking back on it we definitely were.
That is why I love this song so much, because it is a reminder of the importance of what I call sticky. That feeling you have to have towards the person you are with - that no matter how much you move around or things happen, something throws you back together. A little bit like when you have an argument at night and go to bed on either side of the bed as far away as you can - knowing that your bed sinks in the middle and you will be able to keep close to each other again soon, but be able to blame it on the bed not the fact you want to be close to them. Btw, I am very aware I just lost 81% of people reading this, but I know that the 19% who have had a sinking bed know exactly what I am talking about.
So thank you Allen Stone for reminding me that there are some people who on paper seem perfect for you, but there is just not enough sticky there for you to make it work.
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